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Wednesday, June 18, 2008

There are two things that baffle me. One, when my husband says the EXACT thing that I was just going to say.  And two, synchronicity. You know, it's like where writers write stories along the same ideas.

I kid you not, my husband and I can be out to dinner talking about one subject when another one will pop into my head. I'll open my mouth to say it and he will say it first! How does he do that? Where did he get that same random thought? It's scary, I'm telling you.

My daughter and I have this other weird thing happen. She'll call me when I'm just picking up the phone to call her or vice versa. Isn't that goofy?!

On the synchronicity thing, before I got published, I wanted to write a mail order bride story. I wrote up a proposal and sent it off to Barbour. They kindly informed me they had plenty of those stories and didn't need more. Okay, so hubby and I take a trip to Tennessee (we're from Indiana, remember). So while we're down there, we visit a bookstore and I pick up a Heartsong that deals with mail order brides. I buy the book. I start reading it and there were so many similarities to my story, I couldn't believe it. The author had never seen my story, and I had never seen hers, so what was the deal? Synchronicity. It happens.

But here's the really freaky part. The author (whom I didn't know at the time) was--drum roll, please--Denise Hunter!!!  How weird is that?!!!  Synchronicity.

Do either of these things happen to you? And what do you think about it all? I just think it's so amazing that we can know someone so well that we start to . . . think alike. My poor husband. *g*
Diann Hunt  
posted at 7:28 AM  
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At 8:18 AM, Blogger Andrea said...

My dh and I think a lot alike most of the time. He can finish my sentences and me his most of the time. There are those times though that we are in two different worlds. He will have not one clue what I am thinking and will have something so off the wall that I wonder how that ever came about. I am sure I do that to him as well. Some of the best ideas come from that variety of thinking. It is nice to be different at times.

I like the idea though of being on the same page most of the time. It makes me realize how connected we really are.

There are other people that I think like-my teaching assistant for example. This really comes in handy when dealing with our preschoolers. She and I aren't quite as connected as my dh and I and thats ok! I need variety to get me out of my little box.

At 8:31 AM, Blogger Colleen Coble said...

Dave and I are that way too. I swear he can read my mind! And I can read his. Makes you wonder. . .

I'm very tuned to my kids. There's a sixth sense with them. They can be smiling but I know immediately if something is wrong.

Something about being a mom. And it carries both ways. My mom is the ONLY one who can tell Kara and I apart on the phone. Even Dave has to listen for a minute. One time Kara came home on an unexpected trip. My mom thought she was in AZ but when Kara answered the phone, my mom said, "When did you get to town?" LOL

I've often said book ideas are just floating in the air. You reach up and grab one but don't be surprised if someone else grabbed it first. LOL

At 9:37 AM, Blogger WK said...

Me and my hubby do that from time to time. But I probably have it more so with my mom. We are best friends and really don't have to say a whole.

However me and hubby are just getting back to "ourselves". It really does take alot out of a marriage when you sleep apart for months on end while one cares for the other's dying mother.

Anyway it is great. Ever notice when you actually breathe the same and have the same heartbeat and rate? My cousin has a belief that people who love each other and are together for a long time over time begin to look alike. We took pics of our family and a LOT of them did begin to look alike.


At 9:53 AM, Blogger Diann Hunt said...

Isn't that interesting, Wendy? The living together so long and looking alike thing. However, if I start growing a goatee like hubby, I'm gonna run. (Just kidding!)

Sometimes people say that about owners and dogs, too. Our dog is a shih tzu so I'm not seeing it in our case. :-)

At 11:42 AM, Blogger Kristin said...

No matter what time I call my mother, I catch her in the shower, and I catch my agent while she's "stepped out for a minute." It must be all those baths I've taken.

At 12:48 PM, Blogger Ane Mulligan said...

Terry & I do that, too. I think most couples do, since you're together so much.

The thing with Denise? That's jsut plain weird! :D

At 1:55 PM, Blogger Krista Phillips said...

My husband and I do that sometimes, but my hubby is very quiet, so usually I am doing the talking anyway... EXCEPT when we are telling a story.

It is so irritating! He doesn't talk at ALL, until we are talking with someone else and telling them about something that happened to us. THEN he wants to tell the story. And of course he doesn't tell it right. We end up each taking a sentance, and glaring at each other when it ocmes out wrong, or correcting each other. The person listening gets confused most all the time. "No honey, it was White, not Red." "No dear, it was 80 degrees out not 75." "Shut up and let me just tell the stupid story!"

We are a great couple to converse with. It is hilarious. I used to hate it, and now, well, if you are listening, then tough. that is just how we are. LOL

At 5:15 PM, Blogger Tina said...

Well, I haven't been married as long as all of you, so I can't say my dh and I think alike most of the time. Maybe that will come with year five! :) ?

Now, my sister and I do that all the time. It's intersting.

At 5:22 PM, Blogger Diann Hunt said...

Looks like a lot of us have that going on with someone in our lives. The cool part about it all is knowing that my husband can know me so well and love me still. :-)

Hmm, I just thought of something. Do you think if I start thinking about chocolates real hard, he'll bring me some home tonight?????? I'll let you know!

At 7:44 PM, Blogger Julie Carobini said...

um, great minds think alike? lol...How fun about you and Denise.

I can relate to the hubby/wife thing because we share thoughts so much it's scary ;)

At 11:00 PM, Blogger Mocha with Linda said...

My sister and I do that. But what's freaky is she's a missionary in South America. When she's here it's ridiculous. But even when she's gone, we've been known to randomly email each other the same thing (or one sit down to and there's the email from the other.)

We actually have more differences as we've aged, but I've always said we're twins who are 7 years apart!

At 12:27 AM, Blogger Melanie's Words Work said...

My sisters and I drive my brothers-in-law crazy sometimes because they can't follow the conversation. WE know what we're talking about.

And have you ever played the game Balderdash, where you have to make up definitions to outlandish words and try to guess the real one? My sisters and I have been known to make up the same definition. It's kind of creepy.

At 8:46 AM, Blogger C.J. Darlington said...

I have the same thing happen with my twin sister. We'll often be thinking the same thing at the same time. I think it has to do with our brains working the same way. Something will stimulate something in mine, and because hers is similar it'll stimulate the same thing. Also, we've experienced a lot of the same stuff, so we think of the same situation a lot of times. Probably it's like that with your hubby. :)

At 9:01 AM, Blogger Diann Hunt said...

That's cool, Linda!

And Melanie, the Balderdash thing? Wow, now THAT'S amazing!!

At 10:05 AM, Blogger Inspire said...

I recently read a bestselling CBA novel that had the same scene as I had in a novel I published in 2001. The only exception was her character was female and mine a strong hero. It was so similar that I wondered if she had read my novel. I really think it was coincidence.

At 10:24 AM, Blogger Chelf said...

I have picked up the phone to call someone, only to realize that there was no dial tone. I say, "hello?" and the person I was going to call is on the other end, calling me. I have done that with several friends, both parents, my hubby and my brother.

You remember that TV show Blossom? I had been writing stories for about 3 years, and had a notebook full of names to use, and had FINALLY settled on Blossom as the name for a character. Two years later, I am seeing my Lead on TV. Grr. I was in Jr. High when I wrote that story, and by High School it was suddenly old news.

Hubby and I tell each other "Get off my brainwaves!" We think a lot alike, especially on sarcastic subjects.

At 11:20 AM, Blogger Diann Hunt said...

Oh my goodness, Chelf, I LOVE that "Get off my brainwaves" thing! LOL!!! Too funny!!!

Inspire, isn't it funny how writers do that? Too weird!

At 12:24 PM, Blogger Deena said...

I can be thinking of something I want to tell my husband, and he'll look over at me and ask "What'd you say?" THAT one freaks me out.

But the one that frustrates me is when he calls me from work, I answer, and he asks "Why'd I just call you?" How should I know:-)? So I just tell him "To tell me you love me?" And he says, "That's it! But there was something else too!"

I can always tell when my kids are up to something. Probably because they're ALWAYS up to something:-)

At 5:34 PM, Blogger D.H.F.C. President said...

Great word....Synchronicity. Say that 10 times fast. Leave it to Diann to use a word that sounds like a sneeze! :) I do know what you mean though. Does knowing in advance that your husband will yell at you for what you spent at the mall count as "synchronicity"?

And another thing, I get that Deja Vu thing a lot too.

And another thing, I get that Deja Vu thing a lot too.


At 8:57 AM, Blogger Chelf said...

It comes complete with a wavy hand gesture, too.
"Get off my brainwaves." (show me that Ocean Wave!)

I think there is a sixth sense about family. Maybe there is something genetic about how well one is tuned in to the "family" sense. Mothers with kids is probably the most common, but spouses and distant relatives can have it too.

The World calls it Extra-Sensory Perception, but I call it God's Gift to me. Sometimes it is handy to know that Grandmother is ill before anyone calls. (true story I may have to write down soon)


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Kristin Billerbeck
Kristin Billerbeck is a proud Californian, wife, mother of four, and connoisseur of the irrelevant. She writes Christian Chick Lit; where she finds need for most of the useless facts lulling about in her head.

Colleen Coble

Colleen Coble writes romantic suspense with a strong atmospheric element. A lovable animal of some kind--usually a dog--always populates her novels. She can be bribed with DeBrand mocha truffles.

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Denise Hunter writes women's fiction and love stories with a strong emotional element. Her husband says he provides her with all her romantic material, but Denise insists a good imagination helps too.

Diann Hunt

Diann Hunt writes romantic comedy and humorous women's fiction. She has been happily married forever, loves her family, chocolate, her friends, chocolate, her dog, and well, chocolate.

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Cheryl Hodde writes romantic medical suspense under the pen name of Hannah Alexander, using all the input she can get from her husband, Mel, for the medical expertise. For fun she hikes and reads. Out of guilt, she rescues discarded cats. She and Mel are presently taking orders from four pampered strays.

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