The Look of Love
One of my guilty pleasures is Dr. 90210
. The show can be pretty raunchy and I'm a prude, so I forward a lot of it. But I love watching the interactions between the extreme personality types. And seriously, LA is weird even for us San Francisco Bay natives.
So there was a big, Mexican man who was having some kind of "private" surgery (I didn't want the description, too voyeuristic) Anyway, his wind pipe collapsed on the table, so they had to stop the surgery and reschedule in the hospital. When he awoke, the heartbreak in his eyes, when he found out it wasn't over, was painful. His wife (big Mexican woman) came in and he told her was sorry and you could see, she didn't care, she was so happy he was alive. The love between them. The sacrificial, I-want-what's-best-for-you, look in their eyes was enough to make Elizabeth Bennet jealous.
Next scene: Gorgeous, young doctor and his mother at lunch. He's 34. It's time to get serious. He's going to ask his girlfriend to move across the country and move in with him. Dang! That is serious! Next thing you know, he's going to commit to a two year CELL phone plan! His mother says, "Would you throw yourself in front of a truck for her?"
"What, like a big truck?"
"No a Tonka you idiot." But his mother doesn't say that, she just looks at him like he's a foreigner she couldn't have raised. Incidentally, to my own boys, I will say this!
So the girlfriend flies out to LA and this guy can't even force a direct question. He can't even give that much of himself. He says something akin to, "So would you like to live on the west coast?"
She fingers her wine glass, "Are you asking me to move in with you?"
"Would you like to live in LA?"
Okay, by now, I so want to slap her for being so stupid. But she's not ready to marry either, and so beauty queen from the east says, "Yeah, I'd like to live here."
And so, in that very romantic show of passive-aggressive behavior with nothing actually said, they have decided to move in together.
He takes her to dinner in an Aquarium. Why? You ask. Why did one of the doctors take a date to sushi that you eat off a model? I don't know, it's LA, and they have a gift for the ridiculous. She's worried he's going to ask the big question. She doesn't want to hear it. In the end, he's only giving her a trinket bracelet -- think of it as a dog collar to imply psuedo-ownership.
Then...then we have the big question. He searches her eyes, takes her hand and asks, "Would you throw yourself in front of a truck for me?"
There's a few of us right now who would like to throw you under it. Anyhow, the beautiful couple hasn't a clue about love because they can't give anything of themselves. True beauty is found in the big Mexican couple. : )