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Thursday, May 14, 2009

Perspectives. Ever notice how you can look at something and see it in a totally different light than someone else? Not just the cup half full or empty thing, but just grasping something from a different perspective.

I want to give you an example but my brain is still adjusting to morning waiting for the caffeine in my first cup of coffee to kick in. 

Our life experiences affect the way we look at things. For those of us who write, it bears remembering when fleshing out our characters. Do they see things through a broad lens? Narrow lens? Happy life? Battered past? For example, someone who was abused, may see relationships different than the person who has had an easy life. Someone who has had much conflict in their lives may shy away from conflict.

So consider perspectives when you have a disagreement with someone, it may help in the resolution. Consider perspectives when developing your characters and understanding how they may look at situations in your story.

Do you agree? 
Diann Hunt  
posted at 8:51 AM  
  Comments (11)
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At 12:38 PM, Blogger Sue said...

I totally agree and I have learned to really take a step back when dealing with difficult people to consider where they're coming from. In fact, I had to do this with the relationship with my Dad. I asked God to give me His perspective on my Dad (who btw was a great Dad, but just not able to be the Dad I needed... or expected). When I was able to see my Dad with his insecurities and own "baggage", it was much easier to love him and forgive him for the things he wasn't there for.

Perspective is very important in life!

Thanks for this thought-inspiriting post and good tip for me as I study "fiction" in my writing course!

At 12:40 PM, Blogger Colleen Coble said...

Oh man, I SO agree! I hear a story about an event I was at and think, was that person at the same event? LOL

At 2:39 PM, Blogger Diann Hunt said...

Yes, Sue, that's exactly what I mean! Seeing things from their perspective totally helps us when dealing with people we don't understand, doesn't it?! And it helps us to extend more grace when we "walk in their shoes" even if only from a perspective angle.

Good luck on your writing!

Colleen, that's so true. How many times do people witness the same accident and offer different insights into it? Even the Gospels offer different views of Jesus' life.

At 3:09 PM, Blogger Kristin said...

One thing I've learned here is that there are people who don't want resolution. They simply want to be right and keep the conflict going. I avoid those people like the plague.

I'm interested in other people's viewpoints and I love looking at two sides of the same coin, but I can't take people who only see life their way. The world is too big.

At 5:47 PM, Blogger Michelle V said...

I agree and I also agree with what Krisitn said in her comment! I know people who are going to argue no matter what you say just because they are only happy when there's conflict.


At 5:56 PM, Blogger Trekkie4Ever said...

I work at a chiropractor's office and we occassionally get the grumpy patient. I used to grind my teeth and be as friendly as I could and sometimes kindness did wonders.

Then later on, most times, I find out why the patient behaved the way they did.

We have to see the big picture or we will miss something prudent.

At 6:49 AM, Blogger Jim Hunt said...

I'm reading THE NOTICER by Andy Andrews and the subtitle says: "Sometimes all a person needs is a little perspective." The bottom line of the book is that my own circumstances that may now appear to be so bad are trivial when held in the light of what many other people may be going through. I guess that one way of getting perspective is continuing to ask our selves the question: "...compared to what?"

At 9:37 AM, Blogger Diann Hunt said...

WOW, what a surprise to get up this morning and see hubby responded to my blog (he's out of town right now and I miss him!).

Guess I'd better behave if he's peeking into our Girls Write Out Cafe! LOL!

At 10:22 AM, Blogger Rachel Overton said...

My daughter would be one of those people who argues just because...but she only does it with me.

But she is fourteen. Someone tell me she'll grow out of that. LOL?

At 8:58 PM, Blogger Kristin said...

Jim's only checking up on you Di. LOL

At 10:52 AM, Blogger Beverly said...

I married into a family descibed by Kristin's comments. The funny thing is that my husband isn't like that. I think that what they experience as debate, we both perceive as conflict and arguement. Talk about carving out a place for yourself! Its been hard work.


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Kristin Billerbeck
Kristin Billerbeck is a proud Californian, wife, mother of four, and connoisseur of the irrelevant. She writes Christian Chick Lit; where she finds need for most of the useless facts lulling about in her head.

Colleen Coble

Colleen Coble writes romantic suspense with a strong atmospheric element. A lovable animal of some kind--usually a dog--always populates her novels. She can be bribed with DeBrand mocha truffles.

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Denise Hunter writes women's fiction and love stories with a strong emotional element. Her husband says he provides her with all her romantic material, but Denise insists a good imagination helps too.

Diann Hunt

Diann Hunt writes romantic comedy and humorous women's fiction. She has been happily married forever, loves her family, chocolate, her friends, chocolate, her dog, and well, chocolate.

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Cheryl Hodde writes romantic medical suspense under the pen name of Hannah Alexander, using all the input she can get from her husband, Mel, for the medical expertise. For fun she hikes and reads. Out of guilt, she rescues discarded cats. She and Mel are presently taking orders from four pampered strays.

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