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Wednesday, September 22, 2010
I'm showing a picture of my husband, Mel, under this title because Mel is a true gentleman. He respects those around him, he treats me with kindness in public and private, and he treats his elders with great care and compassion. When we were dating, he always respected his own set of strict boundaries and made me feel cherished as a woman, not objectified.

I've read recently that in the South, people of both sexes are expected to respect their elders by the use of Mr., Mrs., ma'am, sir, etc. I was raised in California, so what would I know? And yet I do attempt to treat others with respect and kindness.

Do you have a story to tell about a specific time you learned the value of being a lady or a gentleman? To respect the dignity of others? My hardest lessons came in high school, when those who did not quite fit in, who looked different, who didn't have enough money for food, much less soap and shampoo and deodorant, were disrespected by others. I look back at those days now and wish I had done more to show special kindness to those who received less. How about you? Did you ever wish you had done better, treated someone else the way you would have wanted to be treated? It's difficult to be charming ALL the time.

The husband of a dear friend of mine proved himself to be a man of distinction when several of us women stayed together in a hotel suite for a few days. Our friend's husband wanted to join her for one night, and he made sure he had our permission to do so. Then he made sure the door between their room and the rest of the suite remained locked when his wife was not with us. He showed us respect, protected our privacy and made us feel safe.

Would you please share with us some qualities you believe are important in today's society? We could always stand to learn more ways to show kindness.

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Hannah Alexander  
posted at 12:13 AM  
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At 1:33 PM, Blogger Kristin said...

So true, Cheryl. We could use so much more of all the qualities you listed.

At 1:34 PM, Blogger Denise Hunter said...

Okay, the above comment was made by me, not Kristin. I forgot she used my laptop at conference to blog and she was still signed in. LOL

At 1:42 PM, Blogger jel said...

nice picture!

At 1:51 PM, Blogger Hannah Alexander said...

LOL, Denise. Now I'm wondering what Kris would have to say. And as you guys taught me this weekend, we could begin the kindness by being polite to ourselves, because when we do negative self-talk, it spills onto others.

At 1:52 PM, Blogger Hannah Alexander said...

jel, I love that photo of Mel, too. He looks so natural in that setting.

At 8:32 AM, Blogger Sabrina L. Fox said...

Cheryl, I love how you talk about your husband. Always in a positive light and with admiration. It's a quality all wives should take note of.

It shows respect and love and it's a blessing to witness.

At 3:51 PM, Blogger Jackie S. said...

Yesterday, at an intersection in a fairly large town, there was a young, homeless guy asking for money for one was responding. However, after my husband gave him money, all the cars in line behind him did. The guy was happily rushing to the hands holding money out their windows. Kindness has to start with someone.

At 6:02 PM, Blogger Hannah Alexander said...

Thank you for those words, Sabrina. I know for a fact that if Mel didn't have a good heart, and didn't encourage and uplift the way he does every day, my life would be totally different. He's the one who sets the tone in our home.

At 6:03 PM, Blogger Hannah Alexander said...

Jackie, that's it, exactly. It takes one person to make a difference. One person's loving attitude can change everyone around him--or her.


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Kristin Billerbeck
Kristin Billerbeck is a proud Californian, wife, mother of four, and connoisseur of the irrelevant. She writes Christian Chick Lit; where she finds need for most of the useless facts lulling about in her head.

Colleen Coble

Colleen Coble writes romantic suspense with a strong atmospheric element. A lovable animal of some kind--usually a dog--always populates her novels. She can be bribed with DeBrand mocha truffles.

Denise Hunter

Denise Hunter writes women's fiction and love stories with a strong emotional element. Her husband says he provides her with all her romantic material, but Denise insists a good imagination helps too.

Diann Hunt

Diann Hunt writes romantic comedy and humorous women's fiction. She has been happily married forever, loves her family, chocolate, her friends, chocolate, her dog, and well, chocolate.

Hannah Alexander

Cheryl Hodde writes romantic medical suspense under the pen name of Hannah Alexander, using all the input she can get from her husband, Mel, for the medical expertise. For fun she hikes and reads. Out of guilt, she rescues discarded cats. She and Mel are presently taking orders from four pampered strays.

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