Ive been mussing a bit over friendship. Not just casual friendships, but ones that are really close. A good friend is one who tells you the truth, who loves you in spite of your flaws, who encourages you yet is willing to cry with you while she does. A good friend is there to stand in the gap with you and walks with you through the mountains and valleys both.
It's just kind of mysterious to me how the connection is instantly there. When I look at the friendships in my life, they have started with one look into their eyes. There is something about our souls that bonded together right from the start. I don't believe I've ever had a friend where that connection didn't happen right from the start.
Some of my friendships started over email. That was more a melding of minds at the beginning, but when we met in person, that soul connection was still immediate. I've had other connections over email where the personal meeting didn't result in the instant soul bonding so it's still mysterious to me. Some friendships started with respect first, but the instant eye-to-eye bonding still happened and the professional relationship grew into friendship.
But sometimes one side of the relationship feels a connection and wants to bond better, but the other person doesn't feel it. Again, it's so mysterious how some relationships progress to a close friendship and others don't. I've always thought God brings in the friends we need as a special gift. There is no other explanation for it to me. :)
How about you? When you look at the friends in your life, how did the friendship start? What was the magic ingredient for you?
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Well for me, three of my closest friends are my sisters mainly because we're quadruplets and spent a lot of time together. So that's a given.
Otherwise, I met my closest friend in band class. I was a second semester senior and she was a first semester freshmen (because she came to my school in the Spring Semester of my senior year).
We started out by talking during band rehearsals and she'd skype me with questions about the school. Our friendship grew over that.
Now I'm a a junior (technically senior) in College and she's a senior in high school. We've been friends for 5 years and I know we'll be friends for much much longer.
It's kind of like the mystery of love, isn't it? Sometimes, magic happens. I was thinking about it as I spent Saturday night with my best friend from high school. We tried out for cheerleading together and that's how we met.
Now, *AHEM* years later, we just had a blast and it's so natural to be together. Love that.
My BFF became that in the 8th grade. She sat across the aisle from me in homeroom (Remember homeroom?) and just started talking. We both had green eyes and brown ponytails, maybe that was part of the relating. We had quite a few classes together in 8th and 9th grade.
Then, alas, we went to different high schools but talked on the phone some. Junior college we were together again, then I went away to university and my family moved away, too. But she and I kept up with Christmas and birthday cards, and now, email. A few years ago I went to visit her and i knew it might not be the same. But it was. We picked up where we left off and had a wonderful time. And we still email, phone, and share prayer requests. I sent her one this morning. She's a lovely turned-on Christian and God gave her to me.
I met and became closest to friends through my jobs. Those were the ones I had lots in common with. One even introduced me to my husband of 31 years on a blind date.
I also formed close friendships with my husband to couples in our Bible Study Class (Sunday School). Two of my closest friends I've known for 38 years.
it is a Big Mystery! esp to me.
Sisters and quadruplets! Wow, that is fabulous! I always wanted a sister. :)
Could it be the mystery of chemistry? Some people you "click" with and others you simply don't. But when you do, oh the joy! I especially value those friends that will have my back no matter what, and I have no doubt in their loyalty to me. Loyal friends are priceless, aren't they?
My GirlsWriteOut buds were that way for me. Varied as our personalities are, I've always enjoyed that bond. Colleen, I remember the first night you and Dave stopped by our house on the way home from a trip. Instant connection--and our food allergies certainly helped with the bonding process.
I meet my Accountability partner threw church. I meet a guy on-line and we started going to church at our church. Things didn't work out for me and the guy, but I still go to church and have meet this great women and we are now accountability partners and have come some close in the past 6 months. It's been totally a God thing! Amazing how things like that happen! :)
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