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Thursday, June 14, 2007

I know there's a bestselling book out there called I Feel Bad About My Neck but it's really true. Why is it that as women get older, their neck is the first thing to age? I put good stuff on my neck the same as I do my face. Why doesn't it work there? It does seem to get be getting better with the new hormone therapy for migraine I'm doing, but it's not changing it enough, fast enough. I'm seeing other youthful things coming back (like hair on my legs and eyebrows. LOL) But the neck remains a problem. I have enough rings around it to account for a tree my age. LOL!

And why is it some women have a natural style? I went to Toronto this weekend to speak at BookExpo. Everywhere I looked women were strolling around with impeccable style. They knew just what jacket to pair with their shoes and jeans or pants. More are wearing skirts too, what's up with that? I agonized over every piece of my wardrobe and even asked my Canadian friend Ellen and sweet editor Natalie for advice on what to wear. You see the result in the pic with the Simpsons but it's only with advice that I looked put together. LOL

Coming home, I decided this is the year of the new Colleen. I'm going to work harder at losing weight. I'm going to try to uncover some kind of style that works for me. Any suggestions for a style that works for us baby boomers? Or at least for THIS boomer? Like shoes. What's the secret of the right shoe to wear? I have these fabulous black mules that I'm never sure what to pair with. Only slacks? A skirt? And can I wear black with jeans?

I need a makeover. I need friends to help me! Rescue me, girls. What's the secret?
Colleen Coble  
posted at 7:00 AM  
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At 11:25 PM, Blogger Rachel Hauck said...

Call Oprah! I'm always so amazed at her make overs.

Yes, you can wear black with jeans. The only thing I can think of to help redo a woman's style is look through the fashion magazines and go for what you like. :)

Your inside is so beautiful you will look great in anything!


At 12:24 AM, Blogger Megan DiMaria said...

I work at a portrait photography studio. Funny thing, women who've had work done still show their age--in their knees. Believe it or not. Thank goodness for a great imaging artist. We can take 15 years off a woman's knees.

As for finding style, I know a friend who swears by the personal shopper available at the mall. Call your mall office and check it out.

A prisoner of hope,

PS: Rachel's right, inner beauty counts for a lot!!

At 1:44 AM, Blogger Kristin said...

The secret is to stay out of the cities!! I feel fine in LA, but the minute I step into San Francisco, the casual thing goes out the window. People are dressed for success.

I'm casual by nature. I don't know how you change that. Sometimes when people dress for success, they don't put on a coat of gentleness. Just the other day, I was in the Fed Ex store, and there was this GORGEOUS woman (maybe 23) wearing a perfectly fitted suit on her tiny little body. She had long, flowing dark hair, perfect skin, passed the line up and goes, "I don't have to wait, right?" She smiles, leaves her package -- gets into her brand new BMW and pulled away. And I thought, what would happen to that poor girl if she were ugly? Could she function?

I'm all for the new Colleen, just don't lose the old one. : )

At 2:23 AM, Blogger Julie Carobini said...

Colleen, The secret is the blue peel...isn't that right, Kristin? LOL I don't even know if there is such a thing, but if there is, I want one. And on my neck first :)

At 6:53 AM, Blogger Colleen Coble said...

OOOOH, you're right, K! It's the CITY. That's why they were all dressed up. Whew, I was thinking I was really totally behind the times and out of style. LOL Well I'm that too. Julie, is K holding out a secret on me? A blue peel? LOL

The knees, Megan? Wow, I've never thought of looking there. Now you'll have me paranoid about them. LOL I didn't realize there was such a thing as a personal shopper at the mall. Hmmm, I'll have to check that out.

If only I could get on Oprah, Rach. LOL

At 8:24 AM, Blogger Denise Hunter said...

C, if you ever get on Oprah, it won't be to talk about style!

At 9:19 AM, Blogger Ellen said...

That's so funny, because I was just looking at the photos from Book Expo, and thought "Colleen is so lovely" and then I read your blog!

You looked gorgeous in your fun jacket, and I don't know anyone who has better hair!

It was great to see you, Colleen... and by the way, Dan likes your suggestion! ;)

At 9:33 AM, Blogger Kellie said...

I think you hit it on the head in your last sentence. You need a good friend who you think has a great sense of style (and whom you don't mind having in the dressing room with you!) and have her take you shopping.

My style has always been about the three C's casusal, comfort and cozy. Back then I always bought everything in a large (cuz we've all got our issues; necks,etc.) When we moved to North Dallas, where people don't go to the mailbox without looking fabulous I suddenly became interested in looking cute like everybody else.

So I began to go shopping with my dear friend (whom always looks impeccable). She would pull things off the rack, in the correct size (which make all the difference!), and tell me to try them on. She also would clean out her closet every six months and give me these great items of clothing she was done with. Which I loved! Because it helped me to wear things I would never even look twice at in the store. She is many things to me but I am grateful for her gift of fashion mentoring. I still love the three C's, only it's spruced up a notch (or four!).

At 9:52 AM, Blogger Travis Erwin said...

Women have it rough. All us guys have to do is marry a kind, patient woman and suddenly we have someone right there handy to tell us how to dress, comb our hair, and shut up when we're talking too much.

Boy, we sure are lucky.

At 9:57 AM, Blogger Kristy Dykes said...

Personally, I think you look beautiful, Colleen. You radiate beauty through your smiling face. As far as what women should wear, I'm a big fan of the TV show What Not To Wear. I've learned a lot by watching that. They espouse nice looking slacks, a wow jacket, and great shoes. They also espouse getting things tailored--sleeves shortened, darts taken in at the waist, etc.

Now, if I can just follow their advice. LOL

At 11:51 AM, Blogger Colleen Coble said...

Ah, you girls are so sweet!

Travis, don't rub it in.

Maybe I should make the "girls" go shopping with me and be brutally honest! LOL

At 1:16 PM, Blogger Julie Carobini said...

Hee hee. I've been intrigued about the blue peel ever since reading Split Ends. Some mornings, that plastic look that Kristin describes sounds tempting...;)

At 2:48 PM, Blogger Ane Mulligan said...

My SIL showed her age in her neck first, and I used to be so prideful about it, because mine didn't show any and I'm only 1 year younger. But mine has finally got that wrinkly skin hers had. Sheesh. Pride goeth and all that.

As far as the clothes, I recently discovered Coldwater Creek. Wow! Great stuff. Not cheap, but if you have an outlet mall near you, check it out. I love their clothes.

Buy a couple of good outfits from there and just wear the daylights out of them. No one remembers what you wore last time, anyway. They DON'T! Tell me what your best friend wore to church last Sunday. Betcha you can't. :o) That's my point.

Besides, if you wear the same thing, you can use a photo from a few years ago and no one will know the difference. If they do happen to remember what you wore, they'll think, "Yep - that's this year. I remember the outfit."


At 2:49 PM, Blogger Colleen Coble said...

That jacket in the picture is Coldwater Creek! I LOVE their clothes!

At 3:00 PM, Blogger Diann Hunt said...

I LOVE Coldwater Creek, too!!! Get lots of things from them--especially since I've discovered their outlet on line!

I have the neck of a Char Pei. Sometimes life is just so unfair.

At 4:32 PM, Blogger Kristin said...

Did you see that Dr. 90210 with that older lady who was on her third husband (the last one wasn't dead, just had Alzheimers, so she'd moved on) Anyway, she got a chemical peel where they STRIP your face of skin and she looked like raw hamburger, it was DISGUSTING!! Then, I saw the after, and I was like, hmmm, well you never know. I'm not going to say never. LOL

At 4:52 PM, Blogger Deena said...

Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord shall be praised.

That's the secret...but I'd like a little makeover myself:-)

I think you're gorgeous, btw.....

At 5:21 PM, Blogger Rachel Hauck said...


I want to add... your outside is also very beautiful. I always think you look GREAT.

But some times it's fun to change. I'd wear a different style if I could afford it.

And Denise is right, if you go on the O show, it won't be for fashion. Woo hoo, it'll be for books.

At 6:43 PM, Blogger Robin Lee Hatcher said...

I saw Nora Ephron (author of I FEEL BAD ABOUT MY NECK) on Oprah last week. I rarely watch Oprah's show but I made a point of recording this one because it was about what women aren't told about growing older. Ophron is 65 and very very funny. I've ordered the book because I figure it will make me laugh a lot about things I don't usually find funny.


At 10:22 PM, Blogger Kristin said...

That book has been on the bestseller list forever, so it has to be good. I saw that Oprah and she was the only one I enjoyed on aging. The others were doing too much to not age. There's something not graceful about that.

At 10:24 PM, Blogger Colleen Coble said...

Di didn't care much for the book but maybe it's because it's too close to home for us. LOL

Girls, you can't tell but I had really cute shoes. And they were COMFORTABLE. I got them at DSW my new favorite place.

At 11:21 PM, Blogger Deena said...

I read the book and while parts of it were just didn't really float my boat...would have been better had Laura Jensen Walker wrote it, I think!!

At 11:44 AM, Blogger Kristin said...

Oh you have a DSW. My friend Maria and I go there just to walk around for an hour. We call it therapy. : )

At 11:45 AM, Blogger Colleen Coble said...

We actually don't have a DSW here. But they had one in St Louis when I was there for a friend's wedding. LOVED the store!

At 10:14 PM, Blogger Jaime said...

All I'll say Colleen, is, if you think Toronto ladies have "fashioned" it up - don't go to Italy. I felt like a Wisconsin dairy cow, and I even wore a dress shirt I bought at Walmart!!! I mean, points for trying, right? :)

I think Kristin is right, because it's the cities. If we try to pull of the fashion stunt in my town you get labeled as a rich snob who's trying to flaunt her money (even if you just pulled a few Daisy Fuentes off the rack at Kohls). I mean, I wore black heels with my black pin striped capris the other day at Walmart and got looks like I'd just flown in from San Fran. And, trust me, it did NOT look San Fran, as I'm sure if Kristin saw me, she would attest!

So, dress YOUR style, because that's what makes you YOU!! :)

At 2:38 AM, Blogger Jan Parrish said...

The best thing you can wear is your beautiful smile and the confidence that Jesus loves you just as you are. I love to see the beauty in a conficent woman who ages with grace - not plastic surgery. I just know that some day all the Botox gals are going to freak because some horrible disease is discovered as a result of overuse. Hmmm - sounds like a good book idea.

At 4:27 PM, Blogger Crystal Warren Miller said...

Colleen, Cute shoes are IT. You have styling cute shoes, you can get away with it in the small town place you live AND the city. ha!

I have been studying this with fervor since this is my "Jubilee" year. I can no longer get away with my old style. Plus, colors are all off on me and my hair color is disasterous. I have watched Clinton and Nick (I love Nick--I wish he'd do my hair) on "What Not to Wear" and also the show, "How Do I Look?" because they have not only done makeovers, they transform people to be real to themselves but better.

You need to be true to yourself, but feel like you can conquer the world. Coldwater Creek clothes are nice, but so many are dry clean only. Hello! I live in the middle of nowhere, 20-30 miles from dry clean only!!

Let's have a makeover party! I have the BEST black skirt from Chicos. The best shoe store in the world is in Waynesboro, Tennessee. Cheap and really cute.

At 8:14 AM, Blogger Colleen Coble said...

I am just discovering the value of great shoes, Crystal. Thanks to Kristin. LOL

Jaime, I'd be scared to go to Europe now. You've frightened me. LOL

Jan, I've thought of Botox for migraines but the thought of putting poison in my body is too scary for me! And you're right--what might it do to you in the long run? Shudder.

At 8:07 AM, Blogger Lisa Jordan said...

I just vacationed with a dear friend who suffers from a vanity problem. I say suffers because she lacks the inner peace of God's unconditional love. While on vacation, I envied her size 3 tanned body in her string bikini, but not her constant desire to improve on her looks. In the course of one conversation, she mentioned wanting to get her nose fixed, the black circles removed from under her eyes, breast implants, and ~gasp~ a Brazilian wax. Why any woman would subject herself to *that*, I'll never know.

My friend's husband shook his head and said, "Why can't you believe that I love you just the way you are?"

C, you're stunning!! Remember when I said you resembled Daisy Fuentes? However, you have an inner beauty that radiates from you. Don't lose sight of that in the C makeover.

At 8:14 AM, Blogger Colleen Coble said...

Ah, that's so sweet, Lisa! I promise not to change too much. LOL


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Kristin Billerbeck is a proud Californian, wife, mother of four, and connoisseur of the irrelevant. She writes Christian Chick Lit; where she finds need for most of the useless facts lulling about in her head.

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