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Tuesday, October 21, 2008

FEAR
I'm afraid of spiders, okay? It's not something I'm proud of. I blame my mother for this fear because she thought it was funny that my DAD feared spiders and she chased us with them. So ALL of us are afraid of spiders. LOL Except her. But I could always get back at her by chasing her with a mouse!

Anyway, it's a fear I've been working on for years. The Bible says we're not to have the spirit of fear but of power and a sound mind so I've forced myself to read about them and, shudder, LOOK at pictures of them. The fear isn't nearly as bad as it used to be and I had sudden proof a couple of days ago. I got in the car and suddenly realized there was a spider on my jean leg. Dave got in the car.

"Honey, spider!" I said, pointing. "Will you kill it?" He smacked it with his hand and I JUST SAT THERE! Really. I didn't freak out when I saw it there. I waited for him to kill it in spite of the fear that it might crawl up and actually TOUCH MY SKIN. So I'm preening a little bit today. I can even watch the Halloween commercials that have the cartoon spiders dripping all around. Aren't you proud of me? LOL Though the fear is better, I still wouldn't put a pic of a spider on this blog.LOL

But I wonder what I'll do when we eventually move to AZ? Even with all our visits out there, I've never seen a black widow. My brother Dave just moved to Phoenix and is working at a sewage plant. He saw his first one the other day. I hear he screamed like a girl. LOL You would have been able to hear me all the way back to Indiana!!

How about you? Any fears you have? Are you working on them?
Colleen Coble  
posted at 9:05 AM  
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At 10:18 AM, Blogger Kay Day said...

I dreamed about a black widow last night. I am not afraid of spiders, but I hate black widows. They even look creepy. And we have a lot of them here in CO.

I used to have a fear of thunderstorms. When I had my kids though, I didn't want them to catch that fear from me, so I pretended that I wasn't afraid. Eventually, I really wasn't. It takes a pretty intense one to even make me nervous these days!

I'm afraid to swim. Well, I'm afraid to drown. I will go in a pool, but it better be shallow.

 
At 10:25 AM, Blogger Colleen Coble said...

Ick, Kay! I wouldn't want to dream about one, though I've never seen one. I didn't realize CO had a lot of them too.

I don't like lightning. I never did but since my brother Randy was killed by lightning, I REALLY don't like it!

 
At 10:50 AM, Blogger Kay Day said...

Oh, Colleen, that's a good reason to hate lightening! How terrible.

Here's a scary spider story - stop reading if you want, LOL
My daughter was about five and was being too lazy or something to turn on the light in the bathroom. I reached in and flipped the switch and about two inches below the switch was a BIG black widow. Ugh. And I am the designated spider killer in our house. MY DH won't go near them.

 
At 11:05 AM, Blogger Denise Hunter said...

When I was taking the boys to school a few weeks ago, they spied a spider on the floor.

"It's going under your seat, Mom, and It's HUGE!"

I'm pulling into the parking lot, and rather fast at this point. As I put the car in park, I feel somthing on the back of my hand.

Yes, the huge spider. On my hand. and it WAS huge. ICK! You never saw a family fall out of a car so fast in all your life.

 
At 11:14 AM, Blogger Colleen Coble said...

Okay, Kay and D, you're giving me the creeps!

 
At 11:17 AM, Blogger Georgiana said...

I'm terrified of spiders too. In fact, there was an elusive gray spider that I wanted to kill, but it kept getting away (it was in a corner.) After all my troubles with said spider--my husband brought home a taranchula in a plastic jug the same night! I could have poked his eyes out.

 
At 11:18 AM, Blogger Kay Day said...

One more and I'll stop. I knew a lady who told me she was using an outhouse at a campground and she felt something tickling her hiney. It was a spider. She said she came running out of there and was dancing around and screaming -- with her pants down! LOL

I hate outhouses anyway!

 
At 11:20 AM, Blogger Colleen Coble said...

I would NOT have stayed in the house with a tarantula, Georgiana!!!

 
At 11:50 AM, Blogger squiresj said...

Okey - I have lived in Arizona four and one half years. My oldest daughter who will soon be 28was born there. So I can take away your fear of black widows. Spray or set off bug bombs every May and Oct. and kill the millions of babies that hatch out. That way you keep them under control. My washroom shelf was always covered and after I killed them had to wipe everything off.
If you ever get bit by one, newspaper said to take two aspirin and go to bed for 30 min. and you'll be fine.
They actually aren't as bad as the brown recluse spiders here in Missouri. I got bit by one of them and it went circular and was rotting out (as they call it). I had to go get a special sauve and be on antibodics for 10 days. I still have the scar and carry the sauve in case I get bit again.
I carry an epen pen now as I got stung by a scorpion hid in a cardboard box this past year. So I have greater things to fear.
I hate snakes and black snakes, copperheads, etc. are common here. I get told the black snakes are good but to me the only good snake is a dead snake yet.
I never used to fear thunderstorms until I sit alone through a tornado in a wheelchair and could not even find candles or lighter, or flashlight. My husband works nights. I had an ankle fusion. I was terrified.
For the one afraid to swim, I learned at 27 and only after being prayed for by the church. I am better but still hate deep water.
I used to be afraid of dogs and now I have a huge one. My daughter is to blame. She got our first puppy and we've had three dogs now. With coyotes I am glad to be over the fear of dogs and have one to protect me.

 
At 12:27 PM, Blogger Colleen Coble said...

squiresj, I've never heard about them coming inside so much! Yikes!

 
At 1:20 PM, Blogger WK said...

Ohh I hate spiders, but I've learnt to deal with them. I used to have this really really bad fear of snakes. I mean deathly afraid of them. Now, well we've owned snakes. It's what happens when you marry a man who likes all snakes and creepy crawly things. I have a few things that I'm nervous about now, but being with my dh really helped me overcome my fears of spiders and snakes. Now as long as they don't hurt or threaten my kids I leave them alone. I've realized how important they are to our world and the cycles of life. I've actually called dh because a snake got into the bedroom, and while me and kids left the house, I didn't kill it. We waited for dh to get home. He took it out and let it go out in the field. He figured it'd die anyway, because it came in after the mouse I caught on a glue trap and got glue all over him and probably ate some. But he had a chance. He was told to stay out of the house and we have no problems with it.

But then I married a man that will stop the car on the side of the road and use his snake catching tools to remove it to safety. Considering I grew up in a church that viewed snakes as Devils and all where evil the fact that now I get upset when people kill them for no reason says a lot. They are creatures God created and they have a place in this world.

I guess outside a healthy respect for spiders, I guess my biggest fear is leaving the kids somewhere.

hugs,
WendyK

 
At 2:47 PM, Blogger Pam S. said...

I hate spiders and scorpions and snakes. I can kill the first two if I have to. I'd rather not kill a snake: I'd run away.

Some of you have some pretty creepy stories here. Brrrrr! They give me the shivers!

 
At 3:14 PM, Blogger Kayla said...

I don't like to be around people. I hate big groups, and it took a while for me to be comfortable at work with everyone coming in and out. It's better, but I still don't like to open up and get to know people.

When I was younger, in elementary school, I was downstairs at my grandma's house watching TV. I was engrossed in the show and not paying attention to anything else as I pulled a blanket around me. I glanced down, saw a giant spider as big as my entire hand on my arm, screamed, flung it off of me, and screamed all the way up the stairs. Then, I realized that I would be the object of much ridicule if it wasn't there or simply a tiny spider, so I crept down the stairs and peeked around the wall. It was on the floor, still huge, so I resumed screaming and ran out to the porch to get my mom.

As expected, she rolled her eyes. But when she saw it, she went to get my grandpa!

 
At 3:41 PM, Blogger Sarah said...

I'm deathly terrified of worms. Earthworms, caterpillars, maggots, you name it. I think someone told me as a child that they were miniature snakes...
Anyway, I keep meaning to tackle my fear but then I think that means actually having to look at them and (heaven forbid)touch them! And well...no.

 
At 3:42 PM, Blogger Colleen Coble said...

Okay, I know I shouldn't laugh, Sarah, but I'm chuckling. LOL I guess it's safe to say you've never been fishing.

 
At 4:48 PM, Blogger Jaime said...

So, black widows ... yeah. My fearless cousin Marti took me on a black widow hunt as a teenager in New Mexico. We went into the horse shed and were poking around like idiots in dark corners. We finally found a very large one and she took a 4' long metal fence post and wrapped the web around it until we had the spider balanced lightly on the end. She handed me the post and said, "here, hold this while I find a mayonnaise jar." (did I mention I was terrified by that point?) As she walked away she looked over her shoulder, "oh yeah, be careful becuase they can jump 3 to 4 feet easily."

She finally found a jar and we were holding the fence post on the top steps of the porch by then with a rather oblivious black widow still hanging onto the end of it. Marti leaned forward to flick it into the jar with the mayonniase lid the spider - Jumped! As did I. I cleared about 5 steps in one hefty launch and she laughed as she slapped the jar over the black widow and clamped hte lid on it. The widow lived in her bedroom for about 6 months.

Yeah. I'm afraid of spiders and not even close to trying to get over it.

 
At 4:51 PM, Blogger Suzanne said...

Spiders are icky. There is nothing nice about them.

A few years ago we lived in a house that had a lot of those hairy wolf spiders. In the basement. I'd go down and see one and just freeze. Then I came up with a plan. I took a big pot or jar and just plopped it down over the spider, topped it with a brick and let it sit there until our resident spider-killer came home.

My husband is my hero.

 
At 4:59 PM, Blogger Megan DiMaria said...

One of my co-workers, a photographer who working outside, was bit three weeks ago by what they think is a spider.

It was (is) awful. She was hospitalized, had surgery, and is still not able to work. She has to go to a clinic daily to have the open wound packed with gauze.

I don't take bugs lightly. If I see it, I kill it.

Other than that, I'm a fairly peaceful woman.

A prisoner of hope,
Megan

 
At 5:03 PM, Blogger Colleen Coble said...

Wendy, you are so brave!!!

My hubby is my hero too. We used to live in a house that got those big wolf spiders. shudder. Dave would often come in the door and hear me scream his name. He'd grab a flyswatter on his way. LOL

 
At 6:23 PM, Blogger Sarah said...

They have black widows in NC where my husband is from, and we've been there tons of times but I've yet to see one. DH says he only saw one growing up but it was on the bathroom floor!

But DH's best friend growing up totaled his first car because he was trying to kill a spider on his dashboard and drove into a ditch.

I'm afraid of squirrels. It's my mother's fault. When we were kids my neighbor had trained the squirrels in our neighborhood to eat peanuts out of his hand. My mom was afraid the squirrels would come up to us kids and be upset when we didn't have peanuts for them, so she always had us stay far out their way and do what we could to avoid them.

To this day, if I see a squirrel up ahead in my path, I will cross the street, or whatever to get out of it's way. My sister is the same way. And the new Willie Wonka movie where the girl gets attacked by squirrels? My husband thinks my fear is hysterical, but I was like "see, there you go. That's what could happen." He still doesn't believe me and he jokes that I have to get over it before we have kids, because he doesn't want an entire family that's afraid of squirrels.

But, seriously, they're a part of the rodent family. Would I continue calmly down the sidewalk if I saw a rat scurrying around up ahead? I think not. So why is it different just because the evil little creatures have bushy tails? When they're wet they look exactly like rats. I think that's proof enough of their true natures.

 
At 2:24 AM, Blogger Deena said...

My biggest fear is fear of rejection. I've come a long, long way, but I'm still a performance freak. I wait for the day people really truly get to know me and say, "Okay, that's too much for me" and walk away.

Or fear of finally believing all of the things others see in me, only to find out they really aren't true after all.

Pretty bad, huh? But 90% of the time I'm fine with me--even get a kick out of myself. It's that last 10% that trips me up.

 
At 2:40 AM, Blogger Annie said...

ok so here's my irrational fear... spiders is a very rational fear... mine is completely IRRATIONAL: ants. They're harmless right? RIGHT... grrr.... so i completely blame my big brother for this fear. Remember the McGyver episode where the fire ants ate the town and all the people in it? i've nightmares about that senario my entire life. and in the new indiana jones movie where the fire ants appear.... ICK! So yes. that's my biggest fear.

 
At 3:27 PM, Blogger brendalottakamaggiebrendan said...

Colleen, one of my fears is I-285 & I-75 around Atlanta,GA. It makes me come completely undone. I just won't drive it. The traffic on our interstate is terrible. And no, I'm not actively working on it. I probably should.

 

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