This is my son and his daughter. They are getting ready to leave for a Daddy-Daughter Dance that his community puts on every year. I think this is the third year he has taken her.
My daughter-in-law said Abby (their daughter) was so excited to go out with her daddy. It just melts my heart that they have this special time together.
When our daughter was little and even to this day, my husband would take her out on little "dates." She'd get ready and they'd go out to eat or to one of her favorite shopping spots. He doesn't do it as often now that she's married, of course, but they still have one-on-one time now and then. I'd do the same with our children.
Our daughter and son and their spouses now do that with their kids. They take them for one-on-one time together. A coke, a trip to Burger King, whatever. It doesn't have to be a big thing. The important thing is you're spending face time together.
The moments are fleeting and these memory-makers are such a wonderful part of who we are. In today's world, we are so caught up with technology, it's hard sometimes to make room for the real contacts. And we are the ones who suffer from it.
I never had those one-on-one times with my dad, but I have special memories of times together (Sunday afternoon drives as a family). Sometimes we have good family memories, and sometimes we don't. We can't change the past, but we can make a difference in our own families by remembering how important time together can be.
So go ahead and take your kid out for an ice cream or go to a movie together. It could leave a lasting memory.
Maybe you have a special memory you'd like to share?
Labels: face time, memories, sharing
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I remember having a lot of one-on-one time with my dad, but as I recall, it usually involved quite a bit of work. I remember spending a lot of time cutting and hauling wood, and working in the garden, and going up to church to fix something, or cut something, or clear the snow off the walks. I got more one-on-one time with mom after I got into college. On days I just had a morning class, she would ride over there with me, and do some shopping while I was in class. We’d usually eat out somewhere before heading home.
I LOVED the one-on-one time with my dad, but it was never called anything so fancy as a "date" - we just went fishing together. :-) Since I was a tomboy, I loved every second that got me out of doing girly stuff at home! Every third day (I had to rotate days with my brother and sister), I got to go - for much of my young childhood. I still long for those days on occasion.
I wish I had done that with my own two boys. My older one got me as a stay-at-home mom for his first five years of life, so that was a huge bond. Then my younger one got me with just the two of us for a couple of years as a teen. I treasure those times, but time sure flew. I wonder if I could talk them into a "date" now? :-)
Wow, she's getting so old!!! I am worried about all this technology and the lack of a good photo album. I have them all from when my kids were young, but I fear as they get older everything is on a computer. How will generations look back? And see if they look like their great grandfather, etc?
I did not have that with my Dad but my husband has taken each of our children on a special one on one vacation and through the years has also taken them out for lunch or supper or to an event he thinks they would enjoy. Daughter is married now so it is not as often, but he still does it occasionally and we all go out as a family too, including son-in-law in our special times.
i think that what i can share most with my dad is our passion for writing and literature. a few years back my mom wrote a poem i had wriiten for mother's day and after she read it her eyes filled with tears (i had been so proud that my poem was that good lol). when she put it down she stared at me for a long moment and when i finally asked why she replied that my dad had written something similar when they had been dating. she told me that i reminded her so much of him. i also love going with my dad to bookstores beacuase he wont mind how long i take, in fact he takes longer! he also asks for advice on what he should read. he's the pastor and i'm the youth group leader so when he wants to find material he always asks me. we sometimes write sermons together. he makes me feel... wise, even when i know i'm not (yet) lol.
I loved wandering through your memories! Thank you for sharing!!
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