For the last year (at least) my kids' schedule has really become more of a priority than writing. I remember a long time ago when Lawana Blackwell (a personal favorite!) stopped writing because she had to devote more time to her teens. I remember thinking, teens? Aren't they more independent? Because I had little kids and was clueless as to how much guidance and driving and activity teens are involved in during their lifetimes.
For me, it got to the point where I wanted a "real" job because that would be sacred on some level. People wouldn't look at you hammering on the computer and think you were fooling around, they would identify work time as work time.
I also thought a "real" job would make my kids more independent -- as I was on my own from the time I was ten or so and had to fend for myself. However, I've had just enough projects to keep me writing for now, and after a brief vacation in Hawaii, I believe it's time to start up my schedule again. The one that says MOMMY IS WRITING -- GO AWAY!
I bought myself a new coffee cup to prove my commitment. (Do you know not all iced coffee cups are created equally. The ones at Starbucks have superior lids that don't take twenty minutes to get on right.) This one is from a Kona Coffee shop on Kona that was FANTASTIC! Today is my daughter's birthday, so I haven't started my schedule today (is it sounding like I'll start my diet on Monday?) But when I was productive, I always had a schedule, and I think that's key. A JOB makes it easier because I'm not here to listen to the needs, but ultimately, that's a boundary issue.
Where's Dr. Henry Cloud when you need him? This coffee cup is a symbol of my commitment to get busy and finish the magical YA I'm writing and edit a book too risque for CBA (not really, but it's been overedited in my opinion and needs to be reworked to its original message.) So say cheers with me, will you? And I'm happy to hear any boundary tips you may have!