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Monday, June 26, 2006

"We had an argument," Kevin says first thing this morning.

Hey, I'm pretty forgetful, but I'm thinking the night before was pretty amicable. Even so, I didn't have to ask what he was talking about.

He dreamed it. Now, let me explain about Kevin and his dreams. Every so often he'll have a bad one about us. Maybe I cancelled ESPN or kissed his best friend or nagged him all the way through deep sleep. Doesn't matter. He's mad at me when he wakes up. Yeah, he knows it's stupid and unfair, but by golly, he's mad. And the mood hangs around longer than the skinny jeans in my closet.

So, when he woke me with those words this morning, I knew what to say.

I sigh heavily. "Should I just apologize now?" It's my only hope of dispelling the mood, and I'm not above an insincere apology if it'll keep the peace.

But no, he won't let me apologize. Maybe I can talk him into a nice long nap when he comes home. Long enough for another dream--hopefully a good one this time. Otherwise, it's gonna be a long day.
Denise Hunter  
posted at 9:18 PM  
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At 11:40 PM, Anonymous Suzanne said...

That is so funny, usually I am the one having those dreams in our marriage! My DH has nice dreams about me! LOL

At 11:57 PM, Blogger Kristin Billerbeck said...

That is hysterical! Bryed used to always have these "spider" dreams before we got married. They stopped when we did. I found out they mean you're going to come into some money. I took care of that, I guess. LOL

At 2:03 AM, Blogger Julie Carobini said...

Sounds like a "fun" personality trait for a book character...:-)

At 11:06 AM, Anonymous Audra said...

I have the dreams in our marriage and I'd wake up heart broken because they were so vivid.
Now my hubby just says, "What did she look like?" and snuggles with me until I feel loved again. :)

At 6:28 PM, Blogger Tiff/Amber Miller said...

I'm with Julie. Sounds like a perfect character trait for a hero or heroine. I can see the problems and the fun clear as day. :)

I'm not yet blessed with a husband yet, but I can only imagine what kinds of things will take adapting when God finally leads me down the altar. Oh, is life going to be a great ride then!

At 7:04 PM, Blogger Ane Mulligan said...

Sigh ... I can relate, Denise. I hate it when they get in those moods. But mine usually comes out as soon as I offer a cup of coffee.

At 9:43 AM, Blogger Chaos-Jamie said...

LOL! I'm glad I'm not the only one, though I'm sorry for you. Those dreams stick...and hard.

And Kristin, I've had spider dreams for years. At least now I can point to a good reason (hope it works!).

At 1:20 PM, Blogger Denise Hunter said...

Thanks for assuring me that Kevin's not the only one who gets in those after-dream moods! At least I don't have dreams about spiders. Yuck.

At 1:23 PM, Blogger Mrs. Miles said...

Ouch! Sometimes its easier to hang onto anger than work it out... to give up the control... and as a guy... well, you get the picture. I think its hardest being held in bondage to the anger as you can't go on completely, there's a little lump in your heart. Lord, I pray for a touch for Denise's husband's heart, that You might reach in and open it for her. Amen. PS - a terrific GUY marriage book, that your husband could relate too, but that would be awesome to read TOGETHER, would be "Sacred Marriage - what if God created marriage to make you Holy, not happy" by Gary Thomas

It is THE best marriage book my husband and I've ever read - and trust me we've read hundreds in prep for marriage bible studies! I'm thinking that if you read it together your husband would draw his own conclusions from it...its written from a guy's point of view.

Thanks for sharing your heart!


At 2:34 PM, Blogger Betsy Ann said...

That's so funny! I thought my hubby was the only one. Not only does he get mad after a dream, but he'll get mad at me while he's sleep talking. Or, like the other night, sleep crawling. Yep, in the middle of the night, he slid out of bed and started crawling around on the floor like an idiot, and he completely freaked me out. I thought something was wrong, and was like "uh, should I hit the floor too??" Turns out he was sound asleep - and got SO mad when I told him so! The next morning, he had no recollection of anything. ::::sigh:::: MEN!!!!

At 7:34 PM, Blogger Rachel Hauck said...

I have weird dreams like that where I leave Tony or he leaves me. Usually, no matter which is the case, his attitude in the dream is always indifferent. As if he could care less if we got back together or not. My heart breaks in the dream and I am so glad to wake up.

Tony has since renamed this guy Herbert and we don't care much for him.

It is weird though cause I don't feel insecure or anything.

I pray about it, too. If there's anything hidden, I ask the Lord to show me.

So far, I figure Herbert just needs a butt whooping. ;)

Hope you had a good day!

At 1:58 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Okay, I'll fess up to being the dreamer in my marriage. During our first year of marriage the dreams were pretty bad. There were times I woke up crying because of something my hubby did or said in the dream. And he always had the indifferent attitude, too. But I know the cause for me was...gulp...insecurity. Yup. There was an ex-girlfriend of his that wouldn't get out of the picture while we were dating and engaged. I found that during our first year of marriage these dreams came most often when I was emotionally stressed or knew that we were going somewhere where she may potentially be. I would have these dreams for a week prior to the event. The weird thing was, despite the minute chance she'd show up, she always managed to appear. It was a challenging time. Things have definately got better. That's what 7 years and 3 kids will do for you. Also, my hubby was extremely loving and sweet during all the rough mornings after. He would cuddle me until I felt loved and secure again. He's so sweet. The funny thing is, she's still around in a rather round-about, bizzare way. We just laugh about it now! God has been good that way. But talk about growing pains! :-)

At 12:27 PM, Anonymous Audra said...

That's how mine are, too, Rachel. Bob's attitude was indifferent and in the dream, I'd feel desperate to make him feel pain like I was. It's crazy because I'm secure in my marriage, too. Maybe Bob and I should give this dude a name, too lol.

Maybe instead of insecurity, it's something we are eating lol.

At 7:35 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...


I'm shocked at you and the rest of these ladies who feel the need to tear down their husbands in public!

We as Christian women should be building them up...


The shot about you making the money, sad child.

An Old Lady Who Still Loves Her Husband Enough To NEVER Tear Him Down for the purpose of a Blog.

Mona Yellowhorse

At 8:54 AM, Blogger Denise Hunter said...

Mona, honey, half of the things we say, we mean tongue-in-cheek. The other half, we exaggerate!

My husband and I have a wonderful relationship and laugh A LOT. Including over his dreams.

He read the post on his dreaming and laughed. I'm sorry I offended you, but truly, I didn't mean it the way you took it. There is no better husband than mine--and he knows it!

At 9:20 AM, Blogger Diann Hunt said...

Mona, our husbands are almost as much a part of this blog as we are! Anything I write publicly about my husband, I run by him first, and in fact, he usually has things he wants me to add. LOL!

None of it is meant to tear down, but rather to bring a smile of recognition because many of us can see ourselves in the daily stuff about which we write.

At 11:52 AM, Blogger Kristin Billerbeck said...

I think I should clarify. What I MEANT was that once he married me, I spent all the money. Not that I make it all, only that his days of wine and roses in the finance dept were coming to an abrupt end. : )


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Kristin Billerbeck is a proud Californian, wife, mother of four, and connoisseur of the irrelevant. She writes Christian Chick Lit; where she finds need for most of the useless facts lulling about in her head.

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