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Saturday, February 14, 2009

Today is Valentine's Day. Dave has to work for the first time in decades. His company is implementing a new computer system next month, and he had to "scrub" data. I guess scrubbing data is better than scrubbing toilets! Anyway, a post by Gail Hyatt ( reminded me of the one thing I see missing in so many marriages. Encouragement. Every couple goes through some struggles when they're first learning to live together. As wives we can either choose to accept and love our husbands as they are or try to change them (which never works!).

There are so many things I love about my husband. I love the way he goes to work to support me even when he's sick (like he was today). I love the way he says "I love you," dozens of times a day. I love the way he still likes to nuzzle my neck. He's a man of God and cares about growing in his faith and leading our family by example. He can fix anything and doesn't roll his eyes when I want something different done around the house. (Okay, he might roll his eyes a LITTLE, but he smiles and does it anyway.) I love the way he adores our little Alexa. She is already Poppy's girl. He loves our kids and is quick to help them in any way he can. I love his integrity. I love his height. He's a tall guy. Love how it makes me feel small when I'm not. :-) Most of all, I just love the guy and can't imagine my life without him.

So here's your chance to encourage your husband. Name some things you really love about him. Forget about the way he squeezes the toothpaste in the middle or leaves his socks on the floor.

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Colleen Coble  
posted at 1:29 PM  
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At 2:17 PM, Blogger Andrea said...

I have discovered that it is not the grand gestures that I appreciate, it's the small ones. In 21 yrs. of marriage, I have never had to fill my car with gas. He always does it and has the boys trained so that they can do it for me. He washes dishes, empties the dishwasher, puts down the toilet seat lid :), fills my water container in the fridge, starts my van on those cold mornings, helps the boys with homework, etc. I could go on and on. Those are the things that I appreciate about my husband that he does all year round, not just on Valentines. Those mean more to me than flowers, or candy.

Several teachers and I were talking yesterday to a young single teacher about Valentines Day and spouses. The one teacher told the single teacher she needed to find one like I had (meaning husband). They know all he does for me. They caught him taking my van from school and bringing it back washed and full tank of gas. That started our conversation.

I try to find ways to return the favors. It may be fixing his favorite meal, going out of my way to run an errand for him. Whatever it may be.

I let him I know I appreciate him. I brag about him to my friends in his hearing. I tell my boys that they should grow up to be like their father. This day and age you hear more man bashing than you do encouraging. I find that even in elementary school. I encourage the boys all I can!

Thanks for giving me a chance to share what a wonderful hubby I have!

At 2:17 PM, Blogger Gail Hyatt said...

First of all, I love that picture of you and Dave. That's definitely frameable!!

And I love your candor as you shared what's amazing about Dave. He is so blessed to be married to you. I really look forward to the day when we'll meet. (Did I happen to meet him once at a West Bow dinner? He looks familiar to me.)

Anyway, I hope to meet him soon.

Hope your Valentine's Day continues to be full and rich.

Much love,

At 2:20 PM, Blogger Colleen Coble said...

Andrea, you DO have a keeper!

Gail, the pic is from Kara's wedding on Shipwreck Beach on Kauai. sigh. Such a lovely time. I think you DID meet Dave at the last WestBow dinner. He and I sat across from you and Mike. You and I did a lot of the talking, and Dave is quiet. The strong, silent type!

You all need to go read Gail's post about Mike, CEO of Thomas Nelson. Such an encouragement!

At 8:33 PM, Blogger Jaime said...

You mean I get to brag up Nathan??? :) My Valentine!!! I love my Valentine because he doesn't like Valentine's Day. He feels coerced to do something when in he says he wants to do Valentine's day special things when I'm not expecting them and it's more special. So we skip V day but I get it way more frequently this way!! (my weakness are yellow roses and he likes to hide them in the fridge, on my windshield of the car, etc.

You are SO right, Colleen, about encouragement being needed. He is a HUGE encourager. He HATES fiction (lol) but listens to me go on and on and on about ACFW, my novel, killing people, and writing the perfect kiss. He listens to my emotional spasms (which come far too frequently), he coaches me to be a better rock climber (because I really stink at it), and he doesn't patronize me but challenges me Spiritually and emotionally. I suppose some people could say he's a bit hard nosed, but I don't want someone to just make me feel better, I want someone to help me BE better.

He is a Godly man who leads and is strong, strong, strong. He has eyes for me only (YEAH!) and has gorgeous blue eyes (I'm a sucker for the vivid blues, and I got 'em - think Sanatra blue!)

He thinks I'm silly but lets me dance around the house in my black long underwear as I pretend to be a Ninja. (That's sayin' something for tolerance, huh?)

Ok. I'm done ... well not really, but I'll just keep writing in my head because you just opened up a CAN OF WORMS, Colleen, but I don't need to monopolize the blog. :) :)

At 8:34 PM, Blogger Jaime said...

WOAH! That WAS A BOOK (sorry)

At 8:36 PM, Blogger Colleen Coble said...

Loved your post, Jaime!! It's enough to make me feel warm and fuzzy about your Nate!

At 12:00 PM, Blogger photoqueen said...

Great idea, Colleen! I love that my husband, Mark, knows me, gets me - and loves me anyway! In many ways we're so different, but God has used those things to allow us to complement each other. I love the way Mark helps me calm down and relax - big things for this uptight girl! And I love, LOVE the way he is the best daddy ever to our little girl.

Happy Valentine's Day, Colleen, Diane, Kristin and Denise!


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Kristin Billerbeck is a proud Californian, wife, mother of four, and connoisseur of the irrelevant. She writes Christian Chick Lit; where she finds need for most of the useless facts lulling about in her head.

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