Girls Write Out
Sunday, June 07, 2009

It's that time of year again. Diplomas, gowns, and grad parties abound and all across the country graduating seniors are wondering what they'll do with the rest of their lives. Okay, most are only thinking about college, but still.

It only seems like a few years ago that I was graduating high school, and looking back, I had no clue what I wanted. Even now I wonder, how are 18 year-olds supposed to know how they want to spend the rest of their lives? I didn't even know who I was when I was 18, much less what career I wanted. 

I started as a commercial art major, changed to a secondary education major with a focus in science and communication then switched to a focus in creative writing. Sure I was a little confused, but that's okay. It may have taken a while to figure out what I wanted, but I'd say it all worked out pretty well.

So if I could give graduates any advice it's this: It's okay if you don't know what you want. Go to college, pick a broad major, get your basics and then see what you think in a couple years. Get a core education and build a set of skills that'll allow you some flexibility in the future. Then you'll be prepared to follow your dreams, whatever they may lead.
Denise Hunter  
posted at 7:24 PM  
  Comments (9)
Delicious Delicious
At 10:44 AM, Blogger The Farmer's Wife said...

My daughter is 4 1/2, and every day she interviews us on what we want to be when we grow up. And she's serious.

I have no idea, still, and I'm 37.

Just went back through some old high school newspapers I had saved, and it was great fun to see what our ambitions were, then...back in the stone ages! I love the ambition and naivety! The real world hadn't started really thumping on us, yet, and we could do ANYTHING.

You give great advice!

At 10:46 AM, Blogger Colleen Coble said...

Isn't that the truth?! Who can possibly know how they want to spend DECADES of life when they're 18?

At 11:59 AM, Blogger Beverly said...

Denise, I love your example of changing majors. When I did some career counseling, I would run into kids who did not want to change because they thought it indicated they had already failed. But staying in the wrong major when you know it doesn't fit isn't much different than staying on the same road when you realize you're lost or missed the exit. No matter how long you stay there, you just aren't going to get where you want to be.

I recently read how often current grads will change jobs, and it was like once every 5-7 years. If that is accurate, there might be a lot of wisdom in the suggestion to find a skill set, and keep your passion as your hobby. I guess some could live with that and others couldn't.

I wish I had had your advice when I was in college!

At 1:18 PM, Blogger Denise Hunter said...

That's cute, Farmer's Wife!

Thanks, Beverly. I got many comments at the time about becoming a career college student, but oh, well. I love your analogy about staying on the wrong road when you're lost. So true.

At 1:25 PM, Blogger Deena said...

Our youngest daughter just graduated high school, and I'm encouraging her to allow God to select her career, not people and especially not those who don't really know her and who she is as a person.

I didn't know what I wanted to do, so I allowed others to influence my career choice, and was never able to push myself to finish the goal.

Now, I'm wishing I'd chosen a few other options I truly wanted to go for, but was convinced I wasn't equipped to go for.

At 3:46 PM, Blogger Barb said...

Years ago my son (who is almost 15 now) asked me what he should be when he grew up. I told him I wanted him to be whatever God wanted him to be. He replied, "You want me to be a PASTOR?!?" It was so funny.

I didn't go to college because I didn't know what I wanted to go for. It wasn't until I was in my late 30s or early 40s that I realized what my major should be - history. I regret not going to college, but it probably would also have changed the course of my life, and I don't know if that would have been a good thing.

At 4:35 PM, Blogger Kristin said...

I had a nanny that worked for me who majored in "women's studies". I told her, change that NOW. A boss sees that on a resume as "feminazi" and "chick with issues".

It's sad, but true. She changed it to International business. : )

At 12:45 AM, Blogger Beth said...

I went to University and am now an accountant, however I have just recently realised that I did it because I was good at it, not because I was passionate about it.

In fact, right now I hate my job.

So now I'm looking at other career options and trying to work out what I am passionate about (other than being a mother, which isn't an option for me right now).

So my advice is find out what you're passionate about and persue that. Don't settle for something you just happen to do well.

At 11:29 PM, Blogger Crystal Laine Miller said...

I have a little different perspective on this since I have 3 of 4 boys in college this fall. (Ugh) Figure something OUT NOW!!!!! (ha) End of rant.

I do believe that you should do everything possible to find your personality and how you work best, find what jobs are going to be available in the next few years and follow your heart.

But most colleges these days MAKE the students take a general core academics program (two years) before applying (yes, you can't just "pick" a major at some schools any more, you have to apply) to the major you would like to try, even though you are already a student at that university. And do keep your grades up so you are accepted.

There is this psychologist career coach in Indianapolis(name is Fadely) that two of our boys went to and he did a FANTASTIC job of nailing the personalities of our boys--and figuring out what kinds of jobs they should avoid, and what they would love.

He gave them a plan of what kind of education they should get based on what they picked. Awesome. They were happy with that.If only I had that when I was 18. Things may have been different...


Post a Comment

<< Home

The Authors
Kristin Billerbeck
Kristin Billerbeck is a proud Californian, wife, mother of four, and connoisseur of the irrelevant. She writes Christian Chick Lit; where she finds need for most of the useless facts lulling about in her head.

Colleen Coble

Colleen Coble writes romantic suspense with a strong atmospheric element. A lovable animal of some kind--usually a dog--always populates her novels. She can be bribed with DeBrand mocha truffles.

Denise Hunter

Denise Hunter writes women's fiction and love stories with a strong emotional element. Her husband says he provides her with all her romantic material, but Denise insists a good imagination helps too.

Diann Hunt

Diann Hunt writes romantic comedy and humorous women's fiction. She has been happily married forever, loves her family, chocolate, her friends, chocolate, her dog, and well, chocolate.

Hannah Alexander

Cheryl Hodde writes romantic medical suspense under the pen name of Hannah Alexander, using all the input she can get from her husband, Mel, for the medical expertise. For fun she hikes and reads. Out of guilt, she rescues discarded cats. She and Mel are presently taking orders from four pampered strays.

Enter your Email

Powered by FeedBlitz