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Sunday, April 10, 2011

In approximately 128 days, we will be driving our oldest son to college (4 1/2 hours away WAAH!). Since the day he chose his college, I've been going through the process of getting us both ready for that day. But really, we've been preparing for this day for 18 years. And I have to say . . . lately, it doesn't seem like long enough.

We have only 18 years to transform a helpless, 20-inch bundle of soft skin and flailing limbs into a full-grown, responsible adult, capable of making thoughtful decisions and intelligent choices. Not to mention doing laundry, shopping for groceries, and balancing a checkbook. When they're little, we teach them the basics--walking and talking and sharing--and then, just when they're old enough for some serious learning, when time with them is running short--they turn rebellious.

I wondered today, if God feels the same about me. If he sometimes thinks that a lifetime isn't enough to prepare me for an eternity with Him. After all, I stumbled quite a few times as he taught me to walk. I sometimes didn't listen when he said no. And just when you might think I'm mature enough to handle the tough stuff, I turn rebellious.

But He's the perfect parent, the One who knows when to cling tightly and when to let loose a little. I've got a feeling I have a lot to learn about letting loose, even though I've been slowly doing so for 18 years. I'll do my best to step back and let my baby take his first steps into adulthood, but if you've got any sage advice or helpful tips, I'm all ears.

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Denise Hunter  
posted at 9:00 PM  
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At 9:30 PM, Blogger jel said...

Denise, ya have a nice looking boy there,

I don't have any kids so can't give any advice.

but there is this song, Danny Ledbetter family sung.
that might help,
The blanket song,

it's about a dad&mom , about to send there son off on his own,

when the boy was little, they would cover him with a blanket, to keep him safe and warm. but now that the boy is going to be on his own, they wont be able to do that.
But now they can cover him with prayers, to keep him safe and warm!

it is a very cool song! :)

At 9:49 PM, Blogger jel said...

if ya want to hear the song,
it is
"I will cover you with prayers"

if ya can watch Utube they have,

At 12:47 AM, Blogger Ruthie said...

Denise, I've been there and done that! It was so hard to let my son go so far away to college. Jel is right, all you can do now is cover your child with prayers. I think the hardest stage of parenthood is when your children become adults and you no longer have control over them. You think you needed to pray for them when they were home...NOW is when they need your prayers the most.

As far as you are concerned, as hard as it is to do, you must let go and let your son live his life at school. I didn't do that the first semester...I called my son nearly every day and cried and cried and made a general nuisance of myself. Good thing that kid loves me or he would never speak to me again! I finally wised up, apologized and let the kid grow up. Guess it worked: he's now a husband and father of 2 and doing very well at both.

At 8:03 AM, Blogger Pam S. said...

Good post, Denise. I'm right behind you (with a 16 1/2 year old), pondering similar thoughts. Thanks for your words today.

At 8:37 AM, Blogger Denise Hunter said...

Jel, I know you're right. I have a feeling my prayer life will improve drastically when he leaves. :-/

Wise words, Ruthie. Does that mean I can't text him every hour? LOL

Yes, Pam, it seems like these last few pre-college years have gone so fast!

At 9:40 AM, Blogger Suzanne said...

Thanks for making me cry over my own boy. :(
Thankfully I have a year until we reach that milestone.

At 6:01 PM, Blogger Ane Mulligan said...

He's a good looking young man, Denise. My guess is that you've raised him in the way he should go, and I doubt he'll depart from it. He might stray slightly for a short while (most of us do), but he knows the truth. He won't go far and not for very long. Be proud, mama. :)

At 10:06 AM, Blogger Denise Hunter said...

Sorry, Suzanne!

Thanks, Ane, for the encouragement!

At 1:39 PM, Blogger Crystal Laine Miller said...

Boy, do I relate to you, Denise! :)

They say that it's exhausting raising boys (having 4 of them, I can attest to this.) But to me when they were little was much easier than now!

I can handle physical exhaustion--get a little extra sleep and have activities for them to wear them out. This stage of sending them out into the world for living their own lives--that is much harder for a control/dream-up-worst-case-scenarios gal like me.

I guess this is where we rely on God and trust Him. I hear you. And he's really handsome so you have even more to worry about! :)

At 10:00 AM, Blogger Kristin said...

I couldn't make it through Toy Story 3 without crying at the end, so I'm doomed. And my oldest isn't quite 11.

Best of luck, Denise. Just think, millions of women have sent their sons off over thousands of years. God's grace is enough. It has to be. :)

At 4:40 PM, Blogger Colleen Coble said...

This time goes so fast, D! Just yesterday they were babies. The good news is that it won't be long until grandchildren are hanging on your legs. It comes more quickly than you can imagine! :)

At 11:12 AM, Blogger Diann Hunt said...

Oh, this post brought tears to my eyes--not only for remembering how it was to "let go" of our precious children, but also in thinking about God's nurturing of us. Thank you for the beautiful reminder of how patient and loving our God is, D!!

At 3:04 PM, Blogger Julie Carobini said...

Such an eye-opening time, Denise. My son (our oldest child) went away to college last August. It's only a couple of hours away, but what a life-changing year for all of us. I cried a lot last spring during the graduation days, so allow yourself to let it go. Fun and bittersweet days ahead, but God has prepared you, so lean into every minute.


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