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Friday, October 19, 2007

Life at the Crossroads...

Have you ever felt like you were at a crossroads in life? Like you knew you were supposed to change something, but God wasn't giving you a clue about what it was? I'm there. Stuck. Halted. I'm a mover by nature, so it is driving me crazy! I want to put the pedal to the medal and get out of here!

I started a book about singles on Friday, but you know, it sounds too bitter. Realistic...good. Bitter...bad. I'm happy by nature, what's wrong with this picture??

So any of you with great ideas about how to get unstuck, my ears are more than open. Jerry Seinfeld was on "Oprah" the other day, and he said everything bothered him, but he enjoyed life. He enjoyed complaining about life. That is SOOO me, and right now, I'm not even enjoying the complaining!!

Maybe I just need a new car. LOL But if any of you have holier options, I'm up for hearing them. : )
posted at 8:03 PM  
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At 9:06 PM, Blogger Kayla said...

A new car would work for me. I'm in the same position, spiritually...AND my car is a piece of junk.

At 10:36 PM, Blogger Crystal Laine Miller said...

This is so me. I'm supposed to do something, change something, too. I am getting out my Jan Johnson Bible study and checking out my passions again. But I so can complain well.

Holier options, hmm. I am still thinking about that car!

Just watch "Smokey Mountain Knife Show" or "Big Joe Polka." You suddenly realize that the world you're in is ok. (My husband watches these shows and tortures me with them. As long as I don't have to move where this goes on.

At 10:50 PM, Blogger Kristin said...

Crystal, that sounds painful!! I did get a good dose of Ugly Betty today, so I'm feeling better. Oh my gosh, I want to write that show, so fun.

We're doing a John MacArthur study right now, and dang if it doesn't feel like he has an agenda. Like he's trying to justify legalism. Sigh. I need to go back to J. Vernon McGee or BSF.

I like that you're all with me on the car. Unfortunately, my wallet isn't. LOL

At 11:34 PM, Blogger Suzanne said...

Sorry you're feeling stuck right now. I think we all go through seasons of that. I know I find myself often asking God, "Hey..are you using me AT ALL down here?" Because I feel so *blah* about me and what I do for Him. What helps me is to spend some time singing to Him.

At 12:24 AM, Blogger Kayla said...

What's up with all of the Bible studies and people with J names?

Lately I've noticed a couple times where God has used me and I feel the type of "used" like people do- taken advantage of. I know God isn't like that, but it's really distressing to feel.

At 12:52 AM, Blogger Becky said...

I so hear you on the car thing. Both our cars went kaput within a couple days of each other. One just needed a good tune-up and is running great again, but the other needed to be replaced. Our "new" car is a 1993, LOL, but runs great. And it's got power locks and windows, yay! (My old car was just a couple of notches up from Fred Flintstone's).

About that 'brick wall' or 'writer's block' of sorts that you're talking about? Stuck. I'm in that same place. It's been quite a while for me, but at the suggestion of a friend in my BSF group, I think I'm gonna fast this coming week. Just for a day or two, but to spend some concentrated time in prayer. I just need to refocus and seek His direction. I feel like I'm on the cusp of something He wants for me, but I'm just not seeing it yet.

At 2:59 AM, Blogger celestemc said...

I think I'm just the opposite... as if my world has been flipped upside down so suddenly and I've been just hanging by a thread for dear life.

For me, I know it's just the beginning, yet I sure would like things to slow down some.

Funny how He uses us all in such different ways.

Know that you have been a blessing to me.

At 9:50 AM, Blogger Timothy Fish said...

I have read several books about singles and in my opinion there are too many books about singles. Part of the reason I say that is because every book on the subject that I have read came across sounding bitter or depressing. I read one and the gal writting it talked about seeing the message light on her answering machine blinking made her feel better about coming home to an empty house. That is realistic, but it is depressing. I recommend staying away from the subject and focusing on something more cheerful, like death or cronic illness.

At 12:51 PM, Blogger Kristin said...

Great thoughts to ponder, thank you one and all. Timothy, the one thing that is NOT depressing about being single is focusing on the future and the hope of what will be. I love to show that aspect.

And I do love the romance aspect. I just watched Amelie on TV, it was edited down, but it was in French and it reminded me of the hope singles have, and I like that aspect.

Suzanne, I have a feeling God doesn't want to hear me sing, unless He's equipped with filtering software.

Becky, fasting is a great idea. Maybe that's the next step.

Celeste, I'll pray your world is flipped right side up and soon.

I'm going to Ikea today and I'm going to organize my desk. Maybe organization will bring me back. LOL

At 4:40 PM, Blogger Annie said...

Right now I too feel just blah! I'm a youth director and sometimes the lack thereof of any kind of visual accomplishment drives me nuts! I need to see that these kids "get it". But that comes with time. So.... I've taken up painting by numbers. It gives me a sense of accomplishment when I'm done, it's something pretty, and I can tell my friends I'm a great artist! Oh, and it doesn't force you to tells you what color to put where!! LOL...

Kristin, regarding the singles book: I'm single and 23 and very annoyed with my lack of a love life. One thing I've loved about the Spa Girls and Ashley books is the fact that they have hope. They know what they want, but aren't sure if it's what God wants. Something on timing might be good. It seems like everytime I'm in any sort of relationship, it's all about the wrong timing. Our timing. Not God's timing. It kinda sucks. And yeah, being single can be depressing, but in all honesty, it gives me a sense of empowerment because I know I can survive. It's not the end of the world. Because jesus is by my side. :-)

At 12:16 PM, Blogger Kayla said...

Hope? Singles have HOPE? What? I had no idea. When all of your friends are getting engaged or married, it seems to be the most hopeless thing in the world. The ozone layer will become whole again before I find someone!

Just saying.

At 4:49 PM, Blogger Suzanne said...

Kristin. Honey. God tells us to make a joyful NOISE unto Him. Come on girl! You know He doesn't care how it sounds. He just wants it to be joyfully done :)

At 6:54 PM, Blogger Steph said...

All I can say Kristin is that I'm sure you will work this all out! I absolutely love your books about singles! Ashley Stockingdale had a way of expressing her frustrating with the opposite sex and being single in a very humerous way! It allows me to laugh at my singleness and know that hey, I'm not the only girl who has felt that way!

At 10:00 PM, Blogger Timothy Fish said...


In the sense that someday we will see Jesus face to face I must agree with you that focusing on the future is not depressing for singles. It is the stuff in between now and then that is depressing for many singles. Most singles see a lonely future ahead of them. If you can show hope for the future that is believable and dispels that, then I say go for it, but I believe the best advice that anyone can give a single is the advice that was given in Matthew 6:34.

At 11:56 AM, Blogger Cara Putman said...

I hate that place...the waiting is sooo hard. Especially for us doers. I'll be praying that God will show you what's next and help you enjoy the waiting.

At 2:02 AM, Blogger Belinda-Jane said...

Ha! Get a new car - convertible wasn’t it? - So that you can write the 4th Ashley Stockingdale book!

Being single can be sad... but it’s about being on a journey of getting to know yourself better and finding out what you really like and where you believe God wants you to go with your life. I've found that it can be a trap as a single to find a guy you like and then totally change who you are (or simply forget what you like) just to be adaptable and accepted by him. Right now I'm on that journey out. It generally takes me two years to get over a guy (pathetic I know - But I’m a sucker and fall too much in love). I’ve almost hit the two years out - December the 2nd ;) - and in this time I have learnt so much. Why am I saying this? Umm I forgot.

Anyway... when I get stuck in life the first thing I do is try not to panic thinking that there is something wrong with me. Walk away for a while, do something you like and haven’t done for awhile. Second (if its study related) I clean my room up... it makes me feel good! Thirdly, if I can’t waste anymore time procrastinating, I focus on a part that I feel I can work on. (I’m sure none of that helped you!)

Oh and depressing situations aren’t too bad if it’s made kinda funny and makes the reader feel better. In the end... if Ashley can do it, or Lilly can make it through, I can make it through :D

At 10:50 PM, Blogger Kristen.Knupp said...

That's awesome that you're writing a new book on singles. I'm a 23 year old single and it's always encouraging to read about happy single women. Think about what the benefits are of being single and focus in on those.


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